Parents--Your athlete needs you!
Swim League and reacquaint yourself with this
section if you are a returning Aiken-Augusta
Swim League parent.
To have a successful program there must be
understanding and cooperation among parents, swimmers, and coaches.
The progress your youngster makes depends to a great extent on
this triangular relationship. It
is with this in mind that we ask you to consider this section as you
You have done a great deal to raise your child.
You create the environment in which they are growing up.
Your child is a product of your values, the structure you have
provided, and the model you have been.
Human nature, however, is such that a parent loses some of his/her
ability to remain detached and objective in matters concerning his/her
children's athletics. The following guidelines will help you keep your
child's development in the proper perspective and help your child reach
his/her full potential as an athlete.
The coach is the Coach!:
We want your swimmer to relate to his or her coach as soon as
possible concerning swimming matters.
This relationship between coach and swimmer produces best results.
When parents interfere with opinions as to how the swimmer should
swim or train, it causes considerable, and oftentimes insurmountable,
confusion as to whom the swimmer should listen to.
If you have a problem, concern, or complaint, please contact the
coach. Best kind of parent:
The coach's job is to motivate and constructively criticize the swimmer's
performance. It is the
parent's job to supply the love, recognition, and encouragement necessary
to make the child work harder in practice, which in turn gives him/her the
confidence to perform well in competition.
Ten and Unders
Ten and Unders are the most inconsistent swimmers
and this can be frustrating for parents, coaches, and the swimmer alike!
Parents and coaches must be patient and permit these youngsters
to learn to love the sport. When a young swimmer first joins the
Aiken-Augusta Swim League, there may be a brief period in which he/she
appears to slow down. This is a result of the added concentration on
stroke technique, but this will soon lead to much faster swims for the
individual. Even the very
best swimmer will have meets where they do not do their best times.
These "plateaus" are a normal part of swimming. Over
the course of a season times should improve.
Please be supportive of these "poor" meets.
The older swimmers may have only two or three meets a year for
which they will be rested and tapered.
Problems with the coach?
One of the traditional swim team communication gaps
is that some parents seem to feel more comfortable in discussing their
disagreements over coaching philosophy with other parents rather than
taking them directly to the coach. Not
only is the problem never resolved that way, but in fact this approach
often results in new problems being created.
Listed below are some guidelines for a parent raising some
difficult issues with a coach:
Try to keep foremost in your mind that you and
the coach have the best interests of your child at heart.
If you trust that the coach's goals match yours, even though
his/her approach may be different, you are more likely to enjoy good
rapport and a constructive dialogue.
Keep in mind that the coach must balance your
perspective of what is best for your child with the needs of the
team or a training group that can range in size from 10-50 members.
On occasion, an individual child's interest may need to be
subordinate to the interests of the group, but in the long run the
benefits of membership in the group compensate for occasional short
If your child swims for an assistant coach,
always discuss the matter first with that coach, following the same
guidelines and preconceptions noted above. If the assistant coach
cannot satisfactorily resolve your concern, then ask that the head
age group coach or head coach join the dialogue as a third party.
If another parent uses you as a sounding board
for complaints about the coach's performance or policies, listen
empathetically, but encourage the other parent to speak directly to
the coach. He/she is
the only one who can resolve the problem.
The Ten Commandments For Parents of Athletic Children
Reprinted from The Young Athlete
by Bill Burgess included in "The Swim Parents Newsletter"
||Make sure your child knows that - win or lose,
scared or heroic -- you love him/her, appreciate their efforts,
and are not disappointed in them.
This will allow then to do their best without a fear of
failure. Be the person in their life they can look to for constant
Try your best to be completely honest about
your child'‘ athletic ability, his/hers competitive attitude,
their sportsmanship, and their actual skill level.
||Be helpful, but don’t coach him/her on the way to
the pool or on the way back, or at breakfast, and so on. It’s
tough not to, but it’s a lot tougher for the child to be
inundated with advice, pep talks and often critical instruction.
||Teach them to enjoy the thrill of competition, to be
"out there trying," to be working to improve his/her
swimming skills and attitudes. Help him/her to develop the feel
for competing, for trying hard, for having fun.
||Try not to relive your athletic life through your
child in a way that creates pressure; you lost as well as won. You
were frightened, you backed off at times, you were not always
heroic. Don’t pressure your child because of your pride.
Athletic children need their parents so you must not withdraw.
Just remember there is a thinking, feeling, sensitive free spirit
out there in that uniform who needs a lot of understanding,
especially when his world turns bad. If he/she is comfortable with
you -- win or lose -- he/she is on their way to maximum
achievement and enjoyment.
||Don’t compete with the coach. If the coach becomes
and authority figure, it will run from enchantment to
disenchantment, etc.., with your athlete.
Don’t compare the skill, courage, or
attitudes of your child with other members of the team, at least
within his/her hearing.
||Get to know the coach so that you can be assured
that his/her philosophy, attitudes, ethics, and knowledge are such
that you are happy to have your child under his/her leadership.
||Always remember that children tend to exaggerate,
both when praised and when criticized. Temper your reaction and
investigate before over-reacting.
||Make a point of understanding courage, and the fact
that it is relative. Some of us can climb mountains, and are
afraid to fight. Some
of us will fight, but turn to jelly if a bee approaches.
Everyone is frightened in certain areas.
Explain that courage is not the absence of fear, but a
means of doing something in spite of fear of discomfort.
Great spirits have
always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
- Albert Einstein